One of the topics that came up over the weekend was working Mums. It seems the latest view of children going to nursery school is that, they are more ready for school and learn better. I don't dispute that, but babies in nursery? I know some families have to have both parents working, but if one parent earns enough for the other to stay home, why work?
It was never a problem when I had my children, I was there and wouldn't have had it any other way.
I remember when my daughter first said 'mummy.' I was cleaning the bathroom, and she was in her little chair.. I stopped what I was doing, picked her up and danced around with her saying,' mummy, mummy, mummy!'
That was wonderful to me, especially as I had never had someone to call mummy! That moment was a first, then there was her first time standing, first step, first time singing a nursery rhyme was amazing. If she had gone to a nursery I wouldn't have had that.
All four of my children had me at home, they all learnt a whole lot of things before school and I made sure that they knew numbers and letters as well as play!
I'm just an old fashioned very proud mum! What about you?
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I couldn't agree with you more. I could get on my hobby horse so I will end my comment there.
I totally agree. I am so glad I was fortunate enough to be a stay at home mum until mine were off to 'big school' - and then I taught in the same school so even the holidays worked perfectly.
I'd have absolutely hated to have left my babies with an institution so very young. xx
I agree totally. You get families now where both parents work then they complain they can’t afford there bills as they are paying out thousands for child care. I only took my son to mother and toddler groups so he socialised with other children or I had friends with kids round. Parents also don’t interact with their children the same as they always have there nose stuck to their phones you rarely see them talk to their children explaining to them what things are. I despair for the younger generation. And what’s all this about children not being toilet trained by the time they go to school with parents saying it’s the teachers job to teach them. Oh you’ve got me going now lol. Heather
I agree with you! I think it's hard now, but both my daughters are home with their kids.
I worked when my kids were young, but only 2 days a week, and in the evening when my husband was home. It's one of the benefits of being a nurse - more flexible hours. So usually when they were awake, I was there.
When I had my second child and would have to work full time instead of part time we decided for me to stay home. After putting 2 kids in daycare and only bring home $100 it was a no brainer.
Well I am in agreement with you. Children get better care from their own parents, it's better to have less and struggle to make ends meet, while giving those kids your time and attention. I am very thankful I was able to stay home to raise my kids...those snuggly mornings and all of our adventures, priceless.
Definitely a stay at home mum here. I loved every little milestone and wouldn't have missed it for the world.
Like you I was a stay-at-home mum. When both parents work full-time in well-paid jobs you have to wonder why they had children, but I know for some people it is necessary.
I think it is always better for the children to have a parent at home - but for my husband and I having children relatively young, and both of us having to finance med school , meant that whilst we rarely sought alternative care for our kids and managed between us , our relationship suffered as we rarely had time together .
Siobhan
I suppose it depends on the parent. My mum went back to work when I was 4 months old (1967). She said she was climbing the walls at home with a baby. But she only worked mornings and my gran looked after me. She was always there to take/collect me from school. Although all my friends had stay at home mums I never felt that I missed out.
My neighbours both have to travel abroad for work and that seems terribly harsh on a pre-school child.
I wasn’t a mom who loved being home. When I was there, our daughter had the best me there was. I would have died a slow death staying home full time. I was lucky to have been a teacher and had summers, Easter and Christmas off work anyway. We always made the most of those times.
I think it is really hard for families with expensive rents or mortgages but the thought of tiny tots in nursery is very hard and I can imagine people miss much!
By the way, I'm Ang's blog friend Kezzie and I saw from your comment on today's post that you went to All Saints church and were around 25mins from London in Essex originally. I wondered which All Saints you went to as I used to go to one in Essex too before I moved!
You can definitely call me old-fashioned!! For lots of reasons:)
Both my daughters took maternity leave then put their babies into nursery, but it was not because of money it was so they could continue their careers. My younger daughter was the only one of her group who could afford to do this, her teacher friends managed to job share. The cost of child care is so high it frequently costs more than the mothers wage but when you work in computers and use technology you have to keep up to date. Both families are doing well and the eldest is now in high school. One daughter works from home the other works five minutes drive from home.
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