I don't have any real memories of her, but I put flowers on her grave each year on Flowering Sunday, this year its on April 13th. I have travelled every year back here to put flowers on her grave, and those of my grandparents and two Aunts..From Billericay it was 234 miles, I stayed at the house when I still owned it, but after selling it I stayed in a B&B. And after Dh and I were married he came too, and with Nell of course.
People I've met who don't have family buried never understood why I did it.. but its a big thing in S Wales even in today's times. I am going to have a Green Burial in Herongate, which is near Billericay. So there'd be no need for grave visits, I wouldn't put that on my children. I decided on the Green Burial near Billericay as I lived longest there than any where else.
But, my children did treat me on Mothering Sunday.. cards, flowers, champagne truffes, a super new camera and best of all long phone calls.. I have tried to say to my children, I take as much delight in their phone calls, as I did with their first tooth or first step!
Hope you did too, get treated!
Chrisxx
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I had never heard of flowering Sunday, thank you for writing about it.
I am so happy to see someone else calling it Mothering Sunday! So pleased you had a lovely day.
Lovely you had the phone calls from your children.
My family visits graves and decorates them, but my husbands family doesn't. It's just a different way of looking at things.
Grave visiting has never been part of my family's way of life, so I suppose I don't really understand it. When everyone lived in the same area for generations, it was easier, but my parents moved far from their families, as my father was in the Royal Navy. However, my grandson-in-law regularly visits his family graves, even though they are in Edinburgh and he lives in Dorset.
We don't 'do' Mothering Sunday, either, because my parents thought it was a terrible commercial enterprise, putting pressure on offspring.
It's always nice to chat to children on the telephone.
I so agree about the phone calls from the children!
I didn’t know about ‘ Flowering Sunday’ and your post prompted me to research it. Interesting!
In my family we’ve always used the name, ‘ Mothering Sunday’ as my mum, who was more religious than I am, was always very particular about it! So we wouldn’t dream of going her a card that said, ‘Mother’s Day’!
Have a lovely weekend! 😁
So pleased you had a lovely day.
It's always nice to see your children or to catch-up with them in telephone calls.
All the best Jan
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