I don't have any real memories of her, but I put flowers on her grave each year on Flowering Sunday, this year its on April 13th. I have travelled every year back here to put flowers on her grave, and those of my grandparents and two Aunts..From Billericay it was 234 miles, I stayed at the house when I still owned it, but after selling it I stayed in a B&B. And after Dh and I were married he came too, and with Nell of course.
People I've met who don't have family buried never understood why I did it.. but its a big thing in S Wales even in today's times. I am going to have a Green Burial in Herongate, which is near Billericay. So there'd be no need for grave visits, I wouldn't put that on my children. I decided on the Green Burial near Billericay as I lived longest there than any where else.
But, my children did treat me on Mothering Sunday.. cards, flowers, champagne truffes, a super new camera and best of all long phone calls.. I have tried to say to my children, I take as much delight in their phone calls, as I did with their first tooth or first step!
Hope you did too, get treated!
Chrisxx