How did it happen? My life now.

Do you sometimes think how did that happen? 

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I live a comfortable life and I am happy, although when I look back at my life, there were a lot of things that were against me.

My early life was in a very poor circumstances and that's why my grandmother ran a summer boarding house. She was very Victorian in her ways, she was born 1887, so I often got the brunt of her frustrations. I learnt to keep out of her way. My aunt paid for me to be a weekly boarder at my school, and I think she went without stuff to find the fees each term. I did very well there, but wasn't allowed to go to Art College and my Head Teacher suggested I became a student nurse, so that's what I did.

But after the three years and qualifying I left and got married. My innocent upbringing meant I lacked the ability to judge people and I thought that the young man I married loved me, perhaps he did in his limited way.. I discovered very quickly that he was as naïve as myself about being in a relationship. We muddled along but it wasn't a happy time, until I had my children. We didn't plan four, but I loved being a mum and was a happy stay at home mum, until my husband admitted there was someone in his office. We didn't separate, but I found a College about 4 miles away and got a Degree in Teaching. Then one weekend I said I wanted a divorce, we had been married for 20 years.

The Divorce took 2 years because I wouldn't agree to any settlement that wasn't favourable to me, because for years he had lied about money and when the solicitor acting for me told me how much my then husband  earned, I couldn't believe it. For years we had lived frugally, well the children and I did; he lived in the world of big business and expense accounts.

 I bought my own house and all four children, now young adults moved in with me. (1987) 

I enjoyed my teaching, rose up through the ranks to be a Deputy Head Teacher and when I felt I'd had enough, I retired, down sized my house.

But after a few weeks started teaching part time and then it grew to a lot more and then when I thought I was done, I met Dh I was 64...and .....

And here I am 18 years later, with an amazing man living the married life I thought I'd live in my first marriage. It amazes me when I look back, and I think of the song, 'Something Good.' from 'The Sound of Music' Because I must have done something good to have met him and he love me so much. He is so patient with me and does such a lot for me and never complains. And we love being together and doing things together.. so I can say honestly...  Thank you God.

Chrisxx