An answer and so that's that.

A few people who email me have asked what has happened since  someone whom I loved dearly,  became a screaming out of control person on a phone call. 

One of the things she  shouted at me my arm isn’t that bad and I should be grateful that it isn’t cancer. That wasn’t all that was shouted on that phone call. No end of complaints of things I had done or hadn’t done to which I was clueless.  Afterwards Dh and I went through the things she complained about and there weren’t any grounds for the things she complained about. We had done things that she had wanted. She had no idea how I struggle with this damn arm.

Her daughter and Bf phoned a few weeks after,  to say they were in Suffolk and could they pop in. It was a Sunday so we killed the ‘fatted Calf’ and pulled out all the stops; we were able to have a table laden with delicious food. Dh even made his famous Eton mess from scratch. I thought perhaps her mother might get in touch after this, but no.
 I did email her and just said, she should be grateful for all she had, but I also said I wouldn’t phone.  And I haven’t.  I‘ve had many weepy moments with Dh and sleepless nights, but as the weeks turned into months I gradually began to accept the situation. I did send her the lovely ‘Making Winter’ book for her birthday but didn’t have a response. 
But then out of the blue she phoned on my birthday December 20th and Christmas day and I had received beautiful cards. There was no mention of that horrible phone call, so I guess it's to be forgotten. I did phone on New Years Day.

But it had been such a long time from July to December I had got used to not chatting and I had stopped worrying about it. Christmas saved me a lot of money, as I didn’t buy any presents and just sent cheques to the children.
 I doubt things will ever be back to how they were.  I am almost afraid to talk when she phones now. I feel whatever I say it won’t be the right thing. Dh and I have talked about the whole situation and we have decided we don’t mind if we never see them again and that she and her husband are not very nice people. 

So that's that, we are loving our lives here in Suffolk and are very happy to be just 'ordinary'. 

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Thinking Day

I was a Guide as a girl and then became a Guide Leader.
On this day 22nd February we lit  a candle and thought about all the Guides and Scouts from all over the world. This date was chosen as it was the birth date of Baden Powell who started the scouting movement and his wife who started guiding

I loved it and was very disappointed when my daughter said she didn't.. She wasn't in the company I ran, so I said she could try my company but she wasn't to call me 'mum' but always 'Captain' and she did, except one night after she had been with me for months, she inadvertently said 'mum.' The other girls were so surprised that she was my daughter and we all laughed about it. She loved everything we did especially camping, which even my younger sons came to  until they were old enough to join scouts. At one point in my life Guiding was a big part of my life and my children. Sad to think that the other two Guiders who I camped with have both passed away.. but I have some very happy memories of the joy of those days and the singing round camp fires. I still remember those songs. 

Happy Days. 

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Flowers and butterflies

No pics today of my sweet pea blanket but it's coming along well. I have finished part 2, and so 2 more to do, although there are more. That will be big enough for a bed throw. 

And look at what some of the very talented crocheters  can do.

I fancy doing this myself. 

Off to do a row or two.

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Yeh, part 2!

If you're doing the Sweet Pea cal you may recognise the next colour waiting to be crocheted, it's Clematis. The first colour of part two in Lucy's colour suggestion. I am feeling a lot happier about it and now think the lattice pattern is nice. I don't know what I didn't like about it.  So I am carrying on, although I don't think I 'll make it as big as Lucy's which has five parts.
But I think it's looking rather nice, what do you think?

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A prize!!

I've just had a message to say I've  won this cross stitch kit! Isn't it lovely, just what I need to get back into stitching. I do have WIPs but they are all quite large,  so this little stitch will be just the right size; I am temped to buy a new scissors to go with it. 
It's from a FB stitching group, which I 've only been in a few months, so I am delighted.
Have you ever won a give away?

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