Yesterday I went for my twelve month post op check up at The Royal London Orthopaedic Hospital, and the result was I probably won't ever drive again.. I can keep up with the physio to free my shoulder some more, but I won't be able to lift my arm up. I cried when he said, but the truth is, it probably won't get any better. He has suggested to take pain killers through the day so I will have it easier to do the exercises, I 've said I don't want any further appointments can't see the point of them.
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Yes, not news I wanted, but it's not just being not able to drive, it's all the other things I can no longer do. I am inhibited cooking because my arm won't reach forward and I certainly can't lift stuff in and our of the oven.. gardening
is limited, you can't really dig one handed, washing and dressing isn't easy, even getting in and out of bed is painful, so I am looking at a duff painful arm and the future looks bleak to me. I hate the loss of my independence. Although I could walk to the library its just 3/4 mile but it takes me a while with my walking stick for
balance so, I am getting a mobility scooter in the new year, at least then I am not so dependent on DH, which I hate. There is also the possibility of an automatic car and a steering system for only one arm. We have the money and can't take it with us so
might as well spend it.
Unless you have this, no one knows how my life has changed since breaking my arm now 3 years and 9 months ago!
No need to say I have felt very down and weepy all day.
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13 comments:
I'm so sorry, Chris, nothing I can say except that. I hope you can get a mobility scooter at least, to regain some independence.
So sorry that you feel so low.
Perhaps you will be eligible for motorbility. They make wonderful car adjustments for severely disabled people to drive.
Loosing independence can be devastating. Prayers and good wishes to you.
I am so sorry for your news. It's no wonder you feel down. I hope you feel better soon and can find other things to enjoy. The mobility scooter will be such a help and give you a lot of independence. As with any loss, you have to give your self time to grieve.
Oh Chris. I am so very, very sorry to hear this. I have permanent daily pain in my hip and daily migraines, but I am able to move about. I am just so sorry my friend. You are in my prayers. Just keep turning to Jesus. He is always there for you. Always.
No wonder you are down. It must have been stunning news, not in a good way. Words don't help, I know, but I am sending love.
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I am so disappointed for you, not the news you were waiting to hear. So sorry to hear you are feeling low, sending you a hug and know that you will be in my prayers. Take care.
Sending you a (big hug) Chris. I'm saddened to read this news. I hope the scooter will bring you independence and happier times ahead in the new year.
You are always a very positive lady, I'm sending love and blessings in the hope you bounce back in the days to come and feel much brighter..... hard I know when you get sad news xxxx
I hope you reach out and grab hold of every device that will ease your life. Don't be ashamed! Grab it and go. Especially an automatic car. My left arm mobility is very low, but I can drive my car (because I want to, not because the therapists think if really should). Up and at 'em!
I am so sorry to hear that. Hope things do work out for you. And know ones of thinking of you.
That's sad Chris, losing independence must be awful never mind the pain.
I have to say that the experts are not always right, keeping up with the exercises may help. You're right to try to keep mobile the scooter will be a great asset for you & an automatic too. Go for it & God bless.
Hello Chris, I am so sad the news was not so good. Hope you get to have a scooter that will make alot of difference. I had a stroke in the beginning if the year and I can not do a lot I had before. I live on my own but have 2 children that help with lots of little things but it is the independence that finds me the hardest.
I hope things will get easier for you.
Hazel c uk
Oh Chris....my heart goes out to you it really does.
I hope you can get a mobility scooter to give you a little independence.
Sending huge hugs your way-x-
Dear Chris, I really feel for you when I read this. It's been a long 3 plus years for you already. You've been so stoical throughout most of this time, it's not surprising you feel so upset.
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