Lessons for Women.

 I keep coming across articles about how women should look after themselves. The way I was brought up has prompted me to be a 'people pleaser.' But reading these articles has forced me to realise, I must really be looking after myself, a lesson I should have learnt a long, long time ago.

I only have one body and it has to last me, so I should be looking after it better, more moving, nourishing it, building habits that will support it and build it to be strong to carry me through life. 

Self care is essential and non negotiable.

There must be boundaries, like a safety net surrounding your mental health and sometimes physical. Anyone who tries to  make you feel negative about your boundaries, isn't looking out for what's best for you. Learn to say 'no.'

Your worth is defined by you and not others. Don't live your life defined by others.

Forgiveness frees you, not them. Forgiveness isn't for the other person, but lets you move on and process the feelings. It might take time to find a way that feels good for you and that's ok. Forgiveness, that's all for you.

Life doesn't owe you fairness, its unfortunate but true. There isn't a fair deal, a fair chance or a fair anything, it doesn't owe you.

Nature heals, get out and enjoy it. Regardless of what's going on, spend time in nature, it heals!

You're allowed to love girlhood, regardless of age, you can love pink and butterflies, dance in your pyjamas, you don't have to grow up and let it all go. You're allowed to bring the sparkle and curiosity of girlhood into your womanhood. Do the things that bring you joy, bask in them.

Curiosity keeps your brain alive. Never stop questioning.

Every woman should realise all these, before life passes them/us by. Accepting that life isn't fair, to making time for nature a priority; all these will help you grow, heal and  evolve.

This is definitely for me, what about you?

Chrisxx

Winged visitors.

With this cold weather we've been keeping all the feeders well stocked up.

I wish I was better at photography because when the Long Tail Tits are all on the coconut together, it looks like the hands on a clock face! And a pair of Robins are delightful, they sit together on the fence waiting for their turn on the sunflower seeds.. Dh, who is a great bird watcher says they're probably from Norway, flown here for the winter?  We're very popular with eleven different types of birds. 

Recently a chaffinch has joined the tits, gold finches, sparrows and doves.. They are all amazing to watch and when I sit where I can see the one feeder, time slips by.. hopeless on a Monday morning,  as its our Welsh lesson and its hard to concentrate, when there's such activity just outside the window. There's been quite a few times when I've missed the tutor asking me a question! Oh, dyma twp!!

Have you birds to watch too?

Chrisxx

No coffee for me!

 

What could be better  on a cold winters afternoon, but a hot cup of tea with a crisp Digestive biscuit.

Chrisxx

Its on its way!

 Somebody had written in one of my gardening groups, that in 4 weeks time, dusk will be at 4:15 pm, a few minutes later than now. When we lived in Suffolk it was much later, but sunrise in the summer was 02:30! Being in the East it was the first area of Britain to have the sun.

I can't wait for the sun to rise here and the garden come to life. I'm not a winter person and look like a Michelin tyre advert, when I venture out! So every minute nearer to summer suits me!

I don't really care what I look like, as long as I'm warm. I'm a great believer in keeping my body warm to avoid colds! Whether that is true or not, I don't know but I'm not taking a chance.

Some beautiful photographs of yesterdays sunrise, creeping up beyond the Lighthouse. (Not mine)

And for all the talk that Porthcawl will die as a holiday town without the fair ground,  its not true... because it was crowded here Boxing Day and each days since. Car parks full and parking on road sides and every body walking on the Promenade.

We met someone who stopped to talk to tell us, he had just popped down to Porthcawl with his two little grand daughters to see the beach, the girls were very sandy, so they had enjoyed themselves. 

Who'd go abroad when we have all this beauty here? And Summer is on its way.

Chrisxx

Its Winter!

 A beautiful sunset after a very cold day, but no snow here, altho at 10 am when we went out to our car, it was completely frozen up. We couldn't even get the doors open with out a struggle. 

I had an appointment for my weekly hair.. And then we didn't go to town for a coffee, it was too cold. Here a photo from the Porthcawl FB page showing snow on the hills behind Porthcawl.

I don't remember snow here when I was a child, but there is a photograph of me, somewhere. where I'm sitting in a pram on a beach with snow around the wheels!

And some very brave ladies at 7:45 am taking a cold water dip at Rest Bay...brrrrrr!

Not for me, what about you?

Chrisxx

Visitors and changes!

 I'm loving this trail camera and have  had visitors every night, and day.. no foxes but apart from birds, we have 3 visiting cats!

And how cheeky they are! A white one,,

A tortoiseshell one.

And the cheekiest is a black and white one.. he/she peers right into the camera.

They all seem to be walking through, no 'messages' left!

I'm hoping we'll have hedgehogs again this year... we do have squirrels, but they usually skip along the fence, so we'll try angling the camera up to see them.

Yesterday was my first weigh in with SW.. I was pleased my gain was only 2 1/2 pounds so I can easily be back to my pre-Christmas weight in a week or two. But its been hard getting back on the 'plan', Its not chocolates, wine or cake, its cream to thicken soups and sauce and sausage rolls and pate! The cheesy potato with cold duck and pork on Boxing Day was melt in your mouth delicious! 

So now its back to the plan, which is new! Now we can have 3 healthy extras which are now not called healthy extras... but I'm so pleased. because if you want you can have 2 slices of whole meal bread, great a proper sandwich!

So I'm really going for it now, I'm too old for this, so this is going to be my last year.

Chrisxx

2025 Books

 These are some of the books I read in 2025, only 48 in total this past year. My average in other years has been 70 plus.. but some books this last year were 400 pages and more, and so took quite a while to read. Also there were 7,  that I started and gave up on, I can't read  a book I'm not enjoying. 

These pictured were listed in Good Reads. I really loved, 'Homecoming' by Kate Morton, and followed it with her 'Lake House,'

Authors whose books I like, I'll read a few of, eg I read 7 Freida McFadden's books. And when I need a 'comfy' read I read Elizabeth Berg's books and I read 4 of hers. New to me authors were,  Ruth Mancini, Andrea Mara and I read the latest book by Graham Norton, 'Frankie.' And the latest by Louise Doughty, 'A Bird in Winter.' I'd read everything else they'd written and wasn't disappointed.

I can't honestly say why I like some books and not others, sometimes its a book by an author, whose other books I've loved.  I absolutely love books by Kristin Hannah, but 'Night Road,' was ok, but I wouldn't have finished it , if it was written by some one else!

But saying that I've read a book, which was not a genre I like, but it was the only book available to read on an aeroplane (before Kindles), so I read it......an action and adventure book left by someone who had got off the plane!

I'm an avid reader, so I'll try anything, except fantasy, so no Harry Potter for me, no Horror, or overtly sexual, or anti- Christ. And I will read an auto-biography if I knew of the person, although it has to be of interest to be or it joins my DNF pile!

What about you, can you tempt me with a book you read this past year?

Chrisxx

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A Happy New Year

 

A very Happy New Year hoping it will be a Happy and Healthy one for everyone.

Thank you for all my followers and the comments.

Chrisxx

Nadolig Llawen

 

A very Happy Christmas All

Hope you have a happy and blessed Christmas.

Chrisxx

All sorted.

 We  have our groceries delivered and all this week we've been adding tasty things to our order, then having guilt feelings so taking them off the next day. But looking at our order yesterday several items had been dropped off our list, out of stock. One item was the cloves, which we need for our spicy red cabbage, so we decided we would have a trip to our local Coop. We do buy all our extra bits there and one of the cashiers, an elderly man used to work for my father as a young man! Small world!

It was refurbished in the summer and is now very modern with upright fridges and much wider aisles and it is a lot brighter too.

Big mistake!  We saw a whole lot of  very tasty bits, which were definitely not on the SW food plan, chocolate covered Florentines being one! They are delicious, we tried one as soon as we got home, but no cloves there either!

We were out quite a while, as I walk up and around all the aisles for my walking activity! By the time we came home I was very ready for the 'loo' I rushed in just in time, and it reminded me of the book, 'Elizabeth is Missing.' Maud her old friend, back from a shopping trip, rushes home for the toilet, but it is just too much for her and she sits on the toilet with her trousers still on!! If you're not an old lady you wouldn't think this funny, but being old myself I know exactly how this could happen!

When we reviewed our order later and checked all was there, no more items had dropped off,  and they then had cloves! So all is well, we have to collect it all today Tuesday, as we failed to get a delivery date, but its all easy and very organised at the Tesco store..So we feel we're all sorted, are you?

Chrisxx