A Blue Monday

 We got up yesterday morning to a dreary cold wet day..A typical winter Monday that I really don't like. I had not slept well, and didn't not want to be bright eyed and bushy tailed for our on line Welsh lesson at 9:30.. so Dh and I emailed our regrets and skipped it. Well we are adults and can choose what we want to do, but I still felt like a naughty child!

We just got on with a clean up of our lounge, although it only needed us to tidy round.. we are inclined to leave things around. And a stack of books had grown on the coffee table, because we had started to check which books we had both read, so we could give them away, we only had 2 and so 12 were to be put away. That was a bit of a fail and the books are now on the shelf under the coffee table, rather than on top of the table!

We're back on the SW food plan, I was playing catch up for Friday's extra treats. I had a few extras, which snowballed into eating everything and anything in sight. It can happen as you might know, if you've ever tried to lose weight. My Friday weigh-in loss at the SW group was 1.5lbs, not bad. 

Dh made SW's Hunter's Chicken Pasta for our evening meal and it was absolutely delicious. I could have eaten it twice over, and then filled up with frozen Raspberries and a Banana Custard yogurt, which hits my sweet spot. 

A satisfying meal on a blue winter's day was just what I needed. What does it for you?

Chrisxx

New to me.....

 the author...Elly Griffiths. 

Quite a few bloggers recommend this author so as this book was offered for only 99p for kindles, I decided to give it a try.

I quite enjoyed it; it was the first in the Dr Ruth Galloway series, and I was pleasantly surprised as to how good the book was.

The story starts with the discovery of some small bones, and being an archeologist Dr Ruth Galloway is called in for her advice by DI Harry Nelson.

I must say I liked Ruth from the very beginning, age 40, socially inept, over weight and living on the wind swept Norfolk salt marshes, with her cats; she is not the usual picture of a main character in a book.  Set in such a wild place, this was a brilliant location for murder, tension and excitement.

Ruth had no idea what a profound effect this case would have on her life. The bones turned out to be centuries old, but DI Nelson initially thought the bones were of a child who had gone missing 10 years previously with no trace of her or her body. Then a new young girl goes missing and letters are sent to the police with quotes from the Bible and Shakespeare 

It is very well written with twists and turns, which will keep you guessing and the author ably captures and uses the atmosphere of the Norfolk marshes to add to the mystery. 

I did really enjoy it, enough to read the next book in the series, where things develop between Dr Ruth and DI Nelson. Although I won't write about that book here, 'The Janus Stone,' so you can find out for yourself what happens and like me you might be surprised!

Chrisxx

Weather on the TV

 

 This photograph of Porthcawl light house is often shown on the BBC weather report.

And it was this evening.

It is quite a famous light house when there are rough seas and local people all feature photographs of it on the town FB pages.

Quite a spectacular photo.. the whole base has all been reinforced and work on it was only finished last year.

Strange to think I used to play all along this pier when I was young and also played dodging under the waves!

Chrisxx

Lessons for Women.

 I keep coming across articles about how women should look after themselves. The way I was brought up has prompted me to be a 'people pleaser.' But reading these articles has forced me to realise, I must really be looking after myself, a lesson I should have learnt a long, long time ago.

I only have one body and it has to last me, so I should be looking after it better, more moving, nourishing it, building habits that will support it and build it to be strong to carry me through life. 

Self care is essential and non negotiable.

There must be boundaries, like a safety net surrounding your mental health and sometimes physical. Anyone who tries to  make you feel negative about your boundaries, isn't looking out for what's best for you. Learn to say 'no.'

Your worth is defined by you and not others. Don't live your life defined by others.

Forgiveness frees you, not them. Forgiveness isn't for the other person, but lets you move on and process the feelings. It might take time to find a way that feels good for you and that's ok. Forgiveness, that's all for you.

Life doesn't owe you fairness, its unfortunate but true. There isn't a fair deal, a fair chance or a fair anything, it doesn't owe you.

Nature heals, get out and enjoy it. Regardless of what's going on, spend time in nature, it heals!

You're allowed to love girlhood, regardless of age, you can love pink and butterflies, dance in your pyjamas, you don't have to grow up and let it all go. You're allowed to bring the sparkle and curiosity of girlhood into your womanhood. Do the things that bring you joy, bask in them.

Curiosity keeps your brain alive. Never stop questioning.

Every woman should realise all these, before life passes them/us by. Accepting that life isn't fair, to making time for nature a priority; all these will help you grow, heal and  evolve.

This is definitely for me, what about you?

Chrisxx

Winged visitors.

With this cold weather we've been keeping all the feeders well stocked up.

I wish I was better at photography because when the Long Tail Tits are all on the coconut together, it looks like the hands on a clock face! And a pair of Robins are delightful, they sit together on the fence waiting for their turn on the sunflower seeds.. Dh, who is a great bird watcher says they're probably from Norway, flown here for the winter?  We're very popular with eleven different types of birds. 

Recently a chaffinch has joined the tits, gold finches, sparrows and doves.. They are all amazing to watch and when I sit where I can see the one feeder, time slips by.. hopeless on a Monday morning,  as its our Welsh lesson and its hard to concentrate, when there's such activity just outside the window. There's been quite a few times when I've missed the tutor asking me a question! Oh, dyma twp!!

Have you birds to watch too?

Chrisxx

No coffee for me!

 

What could be better  on a cold winters afternoon, but a hot cup of tea with a crisp Digestive biscuit.

Chrisxx

Its on its way!

 Somebody had written in one of my gardening groups, that in 4 weeks time, dusk will be at 4:15 pm, a few minutes later than now. When we lived in Suffolk it was much later, but sunrise in the summer was 02:30! Being in the East it was the first area of Britain to have the sun.

I can't wait for the sun to rise here and the garden come to life. I'm not a winter person and look like a Michelin tyre advert, when I venture out! So every minute nearer to summer suits me!

I don't really care what I look like, as long as I'm warm. I'm a great believer in keeping my body warm to avoid colds! Whether that is true or not, I don't know but I'm not taking a chance.

Some beautiful photographs of yesterdays sunrise, creeping up beyond the Lighthouse. (Not mine)

And for all the talk that Porthcawl will die as a holiday town without the fair ground,  its not true... because it was crowded here Boxing Day and each days since. Car parks full and parking on road sides and every body walking on the Promenade.

We met someone who stopped to talk to tell us, he had just popped down to Porthcawl with his two little grand daughters to see the beach, the girls were very sandy, so they had enjoyed themselves. 

Who'd go abroad when we have all this beauty here? And Summer is on its way.

Chrisxx

Its Winter!

 A beautiful sunset after a very cold day, but no snow here, altho at 10 am when we went out to our car, it was completely frozen up. We couldn't even get the doors open with out a struggle. 

I had an appointment for my weekly hair.. And then we didn't go to town for a coffee, it was too cold. Here a photo from the Porthcawl FB page showing snow on the hills behind Porthcawl.

I don't remember snow here when I was a child, but there is a photograph of me, somewhere. where I'm sitting in a pram on a beach with snow around the wheels!

And some very brave ladies at 7:45 am taking a cold water dip at Rest Bay...brrrrrr!

Not for me, what about you?

Chrisxx

Visitors and changes!

 I'm loving this trail camera and have  had visitors every night, and day.. no foxes but apart from birds, we have 3 visiting cats!

And how cheeky they are! A white one,,

A tortoiseshell one.

And the cheekiest is a black and white one.. he/she peers right into the camera.

They all seem to be walking through, no 'messages' left!

I'm hoping we'll have hedgehogs again this year... we do have squirrels, but they usually skip along the fence, so we'll try angling the camera up to see them.

Yesterday was my first weigh in with SW.. I was pleased my gain was only 2 1/2 pounds so I can easily be back to my pre-Christmas weight in a week or two. But its been hard getting back on the 'plan', Its not chocolates, wine or cake, its cream to thicken soups and sauce and sausage rolls and pate! The cheesy potato with cold duck and pork on Boxing Day was melt in your mouth delicious! 

So now its back to the plan, which is new! Now we can have 3 healthy extras which are now not called healthy extras... but I'm so pleased. because if you want you can have 2 slices of whole meal bread, great a proper sandwich!

So I'm really going for it now, I'm too old for this, so this is going to be my last year.

Chrisxx

2025 Books

 These are some of the books I read in 2025, only 48 in total this past year. My average in other years has been 70 plus.. but some books this last year were 400 pages and more, and so took quite a while to read. Also there were 7,  that I started and gave up on, I can't read  a book I'm not enjoying. 

These pictured were listed in Good Reads. I really loved, 'Homecoming' by Kate Morton, and followed it with her 'Lake House,'

Authors whose books I like, I'll read a few of, eg I read 7 Freida McFadden's books. And when I need a 'comfy' read I read Elizabeth Berg's books and I read 4 of hers. New to me authors were,  Ruth Mancini, Andrea Mara and I read the latest book by Graham Norton, 'Frankie.' And the latest by Louise Doughty, 'A Bird in Winter.' I'd read everything else they'd written and wasn't disappointed.

I can't honestly say why I like some books and not others, sometimes its a book by an author, whose other books I've loved.  I absolutely love books by Kristin Hannah, but 'Night Road,' was ok, but I wouldn't have finished it , if it was written by some one else!

But saying that I've read a book, which was not a genre I like, but it was the only book available to read on an aeroplane (before Kindles), so I read it......an action and adventure book left by someone who had got off the plane!

I'm an avid reader, so I'll try anything, except fantasy, so no Harry Potter for me, no Horror, or overtly sexual, or anti- Christ. And I will read an auto-biography if I knew of the person, although it has to be of interest to be or it joins my DNF pile!

What about you, can you tempt me with a book you read this past year?

Chrisxx

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