Saturday 27 January 2024

How did it happen? My life now.

Do you sometimes think how did that happen? 

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I live a comfortable life and I am happy, although when I look back at my life, there were a lot of things that were against me.
My early life was in a very poor circumstances and that's why my grandmother ran a summer boarding house. She was very Victorian in her ways, she was born 1887, so I often got the brunt of her frustrations. I learnt to keep out of her way. My aunt paid for me to be a weekly boarder at my school, and I think she went without stuff to find the fees each term. I did very well there, but wasn't allowed to go to Art College and my Head Teacher suggested I became a student nurse, so that's what I did.
But after the three years and qualifying I left and got married. My innocent upbringing meant I lacked the ability to judge people and I thought that the young man I married loved me, perhaps he did in his limited way.. I discovered very quickly that he was as naïve as myself about being in a relationship. We muddled along but it wasn't a happy time, until I had my children. We didn't plan four, but I loved being a mum and was a happy stay at home mum, until my husband admitted there was someone in his office. We didn't separate, but I found a College about 4 miles away and got a Degree in Teaching. Then one weekend I said I wanted a divorce, we had been married for 20 years.
The Divorce took 2 years because I wouldn't agree to any settlement that wasn't favourable to me, because for years he had lied about money and when the solicitor acting for me told me how much my then husband  earned, I couldn't believe it. For years we had lived frugally, well the children and I did; he lived in the world of big business and expense accounts.
 I bought my own house and all four children, now young adults moved in with me. (1987) 
I enjoyed my teaching, rose up through the ranks to be a Deputy Head Teacher and when I felt I'd had enough, I retired, down sized my house.
But after a few weeks started teaching part time and then it grew to a lot more and then when I thought I was done, I met Dh I was 64...and .....

And here I am 18 years later, with an amazing man living the married life I thought I'd live in my first marriage. It amazes me when I look back, and I think of the song, 'Something Good.' from 'The Sound of Music' Because I must have done something good to have met him and he love me so much. He is so patient with me and does such a lot for me and never complains. And we love being together and doing things together.. so I can say honestly...  Thank you God.

Chrisxx
 

14 comments:

  1. So wonderful that your life has now become so happy after all that struggling. Blessings!

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  2. Your second marriage sounds very sweet, God put you together with the right man. You have accomplished a lot in your life and likely more to come.

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  3. I am so thrilled to read your "happily ever after" story. After all those years working hard for your children - your own babies AND all your pupils - it is wonderful to know that in retirement you have someone who loves and cherishes you every day. May God bless you with more days of life, love and laughter 😊❤️🙏👍

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  4. Your story has a happy ending, or continuation, despite awful setbacks. May it continue so.

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  5. Your story is inspiring. It gives hope to those who are struggling with negative emotions. I hope you have many more years together.

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  6. That's very lovely to read , thank you for sharing. Also love the illustrated quote.
    Alison in Wales x

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  7. You are a testiment of 'it's never to late to find love'. I am so happy that you found yours. Blessings!

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  8. You’ve come a long way and earned a happy ending with Dh. I pray you have many more happy years together.

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  9. It's never too late! What a sweet and lovely story that you so deserve.

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  10. What a lovely look back at your life, and I agree entirely it is never too late to begin again.

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  11. Well done Chris, you lived your life and it turned out good for you.

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  12. What a lovely thing to read about your sweet marriage at the end of this post. As I read your story, I thought, you are a good example of being true to yourself. It sounds like a good and deserving man found a gem in you.

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  13. Wishing you many more years of shared happiness with Dh, the love of your life. Such a heart warming and touching post.

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  14. I'm glad you have found a loving husband and a happy life together. May you have many more happy years together. :)

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